Sexual desire increases with age
After I asked some of my 30-year-old friends if they felt like this, they almost attacked me; they were so excited.
Their response was, “Oh my God, yes!” “Things are very hot now” and “Totally; it’s strange.”
A common thread with all of us is that we have children in the middle or adolescent stage; our children are definitely more independent, which gives us more energy.
Women with older children are also not touched or thrown all day. They can spend more time on self-care, which makes them happier.
These things make sense, of course, but I wondered if there is something else going on in the female body with our hormones at this age.
It turns out that middle-aged women are more likely to satisfy numerous sexual desires than girls in their twenties.
Experts say, as women approach menopause, their hormone levels drop and peak at different times. Estrogen starts to drop, and when testosterone stabilizes, it’s like testosterone rises, i.e., higher libido.
Also, as a woman ages, she may become more comfortable with her sexuality or, in some cases, if she has not had a child, there may be an increased desire to procreate, increasing her libido.
Women are wired to have more sexual desire
The question of who has a more sexual desire is not just about gender. It also depends on our views on libido. We tend to think of it as a spontaneous hormonal drive, like thirst or hunger.
However, research in sexology shows that this is an outdated way of looking at libido, at least if the idea is attributed to women.
There are two different styles of sexual desire: spontaneous and responsive.
Spontaneous libido is what we are most used to. It is a sensation that comes out of nowhere, in the middle of a meal or a walk.
The responsive desire, however, is a reaction to our physical arousal. It must be triggered by something, perhaps a sexual fantasy, a strangely attractive look, or a sensual touch, for a responsive desire to occur.
In general, men are more inclined to a spontaneous desire style, while women are more inclined to a responsive desire style.
When women choose their partner, their idea of connection is not limited only to sex. Once they have sex with their partners, women are more likely to fulfill all their sexual desires with the same man.
Women are attracted to touch or talk than sex
Yes, men may be more sexually attracted to the female body than vice versa, but women have other very important reasons that trigger their desire to have more sex than men.
Could it possible I may have touched myself on the wrong end? No! I didn’t, which is why it was weird.
Women bond first and then indulge in sex, not the other way around. Men, on the other hand, are more likely to bond with their partners after sex.
However, women prefer to be careful in this field. For them, this starts with touching, talking, and then leading to sex. And once women have reached that last stage, they are more likely to become aroused more often.
Hormonal changes can affect arousal
Everything you think you know about sex is a lie! We have heard that women are more likely to have a monogamous relationship because we only want an emotional connection. While men just want sex and more sex.
It turns out that hormones play an important role in women’s sex drive.
Women’s libido tends to plummet when they are in a long-term relationship, but the same is not true for men.
A woman’s sex drive fluctuates due to many factors. From hormonal changes to pregnancy and chronic diseases, many things can determine a woman’s libido and how they respond to sexual desires.
Social and cultural facts also influence the female sex drive, and studies have shown how women’s sexual attitudes, customs, and desires were influenced more by their environment than by men.
But most importantly, most men don’t hit the G-spot, which can set a woman off and invariably kills her sex drive. I heard no idea what G-spot was, let alone heard of A-spot for that matter until I was celibate.
Self-sex helped me discover all the pleasure hotspots in my body. Women seek them out, and when they can’t find them, they gradually lose interest in sex.
Women have wet dreams too
Mine has hit a mountain height since I turned 30. It’s like I can’t turn it off. Okay, let me tell you a secret. I started writing on Medium to get rid of all the intense sexual feelings that were suffocating me.
I was involuntarily celibate for more than five years. Shocking, isn’t it? I didn’t realize I was going through hormonal changes until I started experiencing embarrassing wet dreams.
Thanks to my fantasies and self pleasures, now I feel more comfortable dating, and my sex life couldn’t be more satisfying.
Women are too embarrassed to admit they have wet dreams because society sees it as something that only happens to men.
But one thing is clear; this is not an exclusive men-only thing.
This is another one of those things about sex that we think only applies to men, but it just isn’t true.
Now that I know that it’s normal for women to have wet dreams, the game changes for me. I can now have more …hmmm, without feeling embarrassed.
Women hit their sexual peak late
Most men reach their sexual peak in their late teens, while women reach their sexual peak in their mid-30s or 40s.
Most people have associated men’s sexual peak with high libido, not necessarily sexual satisfaction. That is why men enjoy satisfying sex their entire lives. But for women, the sexual peak is often associated with sexual pleasure, which tends to increase with age as people do.
It is not so easy to identify a clear peak for both men and women. Sex drive constantly fluctuates and is related to many more factors than age. You will see your sexual desire and activity go up and down many times over a lifetime.
Although judging by my rapid sexual changes, I can confirm that this study was correct. I am a single mother. I have been celibate. I’ve been in and out of relationships, and I can say that my new addiction to sex definitely came with my age.
Our bodies change as we age, but generally, our capacity for intimacy increases. Men and women of all ages can have exciting and satisfying sex lives regardless of their age.
Celibacy boost women’s libido
People refer to not having sex for a long time as celibacy or abstinence. Whether you’re purposely taking time out or going through an involuntary dry spell, your body starts itching down there.
Even when you’re not aroused, your vaginal walls are moist and flexible. Dryness itself is not necessarily a problem, but it can be uncomfortable.
To escape the negative effects of abstinence — such as stress and depression, some people adopt foreplay and masturbation.
When you have regular self-sex activities, your vagina will automatically go into arousal mode without you even thinking about sex.
While genital stimulation was more important to men, women essentially needed their conscious brains shut off to have a real orgasm.
That women can get turned on by various sex scenes, like watching monkeys having sex or gay men having sex, a pattern of arousal not seen in lustful straight men shows how truly that women have a higher libido.
This apparently contradicts our socially fabricated assumption that women are naturally more sexually restrained than men and therefore better suited to monogamy.
So next time you get that tingling feeling between your legs, get down to business.
Don’t be rude. It’s your body. Own it! Love it! The important thing is that you feel comfortable.